Empowerment in Shidduchim #2


1. READ AND STUDY LETTERS FROM ETERNAL JOY. 
2. GIVE CHARITY TO A NEEDY KALLAH OR TO A FUND THAT HELPS KALLAHS.
3. HELP A KALLAH WITH SOMETHING FOR HER CHASUNAH.
4. ADD TEHILLIM.
6. ADD A LEARNING SEDER
7. ADD A DAVENING.
8. IF YOU ALREADY DAVEN 3 TIMES A DAY, AND ALREADY DO CHITAS, ADD SOMETHING ELSE.
9. GET A BRACHA FROM SOMEONE WHO CARES ABOUT YOU.
10. HAVE A FARBRENGEN, GIVE EVERYONE BROCHOS.
11. SEND THE RESUME TO  A SHADCHAN THAT DOESN'T HAVE IT YET.
13. WRITE DOWN 3 THINGS EVERY DAY THAT YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR UNTIL THE VORT.
14. CALL PEOPLE FROM THE GROUP AND ASK FOR SUGGESTIONS.
15. CALL A  SHIDDUCH COACH.
16. GO OVER YOUR LIST WITH YOUR MASHPIA. 
18. WORK ON LETTING GO OF GRUDGES, FORGIVENESS.
19. MAKE UP WITH PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE ANGRY WITH.
20. GO TO YOUR RELATIVES GRAVES.
23. BUY SOMETHING FOR THE VORT/L'CHAIM/BRIDAL SHOWER.
24. START MAKING THE GUEST LIST, GET ADDRESSES.
25. START PREPARING THE HOUSE AS IF GUESTS ARE COMING SOON. FIX THE HINGE, THE CABINET DOOR,ETC.
26. PUT A DOLLAR IN THE ENVELOPE MARKED FOR THE CHASUNAH
30. JOIN CHABADMATCH.
31. GIVE 18 CENTS A DAY TO A KALLAH FUND.
32. GIVE A FEW PENNIES TO A PUSHKA A FEW TIMES A DAY AND DAVEN FOR WHAT YOU WANT.
33. GET A  BRACHA FROM A KALLAH ON HER CHASUNAH DAY.
35. GO TO A  SHABBOS KALLAH OR A COMMUNITY GATHERING AND WORK ON STRAINED RELATIONSHIPS.
36. DROP OFF A DESSERT TO A SHABBOS KALLAH.
38. DAVEN FOR A PERSONAL MIRACLE, ALL SHIDDUCHIM ARE PERSONAL MIRACLES.




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