Empowerment . in Shidduchim #3

After working with singles of all kinds for 9 years, I have collected data from 100's of peoples shidduch stories. The common thread of those who were successful ...........seemed to be the building of a"keli" led by the Rebbes letters.

Continually giving to various kallah funds , checking tefillim, increasing in learning .

NOTES FROM FROM LETTERS WRITTEN BY THE LUBAVITCH REBBE

1. " IN ORDER TO HASTEN THE BLESSING, YOU SHOULD GIVE SEVERAL FRANCS EVERY WEEKDAY FOR POOR BRIDES"

2."IMPROVING ONE'S SPIRITUAL STATE IS OF CRUCIAL AND FUNDAMENTAL IMPORTANCE"

3. " IT IS LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE TO FIND SOMETHING IN THIS WORLD THAT IS ENTIRELY PERFECT"

4. " YOU ARE TO INTENSIFY YOUR PERFORMANCE OF TORAH AND MITZVOT AND JUDGE THE SUGGESTIONS IN ACCORDANCE WITH THEIR DEGREE OF RELIGIOSITY" 

5."YOUR CHASSAN WILL ESTABLISH FIXED TIMES FOR THE STUDY OF TORAH"

6. "ONE SHOULD NOT BE MISERLY WITH REGARD TO THE NUMBER OF TIMES ONE GOES OUT TO SEE PROSPECTIVE PARTNERS"

7."ACTIVE EFFORTS IN REGARD TO FINDING A SHIDDUCH"

8. "YOU SHOULD ALSO STRENGTHEN YOUR OBSERVANCE OF TORAH AND MITZVOS AS NESSESARY, FOR THIS DRAWS DOWN G-D'S BLESSING"

9."CHECK YOUR TEFILLIN"

10. "PRIOR TO DONNING THEM DONATE SEVERAL COINS TO THE CHARITY OF "DOWERING THE BRIDE"

11. "THE STUDY OF P'NIMIYUS HATORAH AND FOLLOWING IN ITS PATH"

12."TO GIVE  A FRANC TO TZEDAKAH EVERY DAY BEFORE PRAYER, AND AS IT IS SELF UNDERSTOOD, OBSERVE THE PATTERN OF STUDY MY REVERED FATHER-IN-LAW ,THE REBBE, ESTABLISHED WITH REGARD TO THE THREE TEXTS OF CHUMASH,TEHILLIM, AND TANYA"

13. "SET ASIDE FIXED TIMES FOR THE STUDY OF TORAH, AND SURELY SO ON THE SHABBOS DAY"

14. "IT IS APPROPRIATE THAT YOU GIVE EIGHTEEN CENTS TO CHARITY BEFORE THE MORNING PRAYERS EVERY WEEKDAY,IN THE MERITS OF YOUR DAUGHTERS AND ALL THE MEMBERS OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD. THIS WILL SERVE AS A MEDIUM TO DRAW DOWN AND RECEIVE G-D'S BLESSING IN ALL THE ABOVE MATTERS"

15. "INCREASING ONE'S PERFORMANCE OF TORAH AND MITZVOT IS THE WAY TO INCREASE DIVINE ASSISTANCE"

16."I SUREKY NEED NOT TELL YOU THAT YOU SHOULD IMMEDIATELY BEGIN ADDING TO YOUR LEARNING OF REVEALED PORTIONS OF TORAH AS WELL AS CHASSIDUS. THIS WILL ACT AS AN ADDITIONAL CHANNEL AND VESSEL TO RECEIVE G-D'S BLESSINGS IN ALL THE ABOVE"

17. "LEARN TORAS HACHASSIDUS AS A PRECONDITION FOR THE SHIDDUCH"