LETS SAY YOUR NOT GETTING SUGGESTIONS RIGHT NOW AND YOU WANT TO CHANGE THAT CHOOSE SOMETHING ON THE LIST, WAIT A DAY OR TWO , CHOOSE ANOTHER. ANYTHING YOU DO AS A GROUP IS 10X MORE POWERFUL THEN DOING IT BY YOURSELF. 1. READ AND STUDY LETTERS FROM ETERNAL JOY. ALIGN YOURSELF WITH THE REBBES WISDOM. 2. GIVE CHARITY TO A NEEDY KALLAH OR TO A FUND THAT HELPS KALLAHS. 3. HELP A KALLAH WITH SOMETHING FOR HER CHASUNAH. 4. ADD TEHILLIM. 5. ADD SOMEONE ELSES CHILD KAPITAL TEHILLIM. 6. ADD A LEARNING SEDER 7. ADD A DAVENING. 8. IF YOU ALREADY DAVEN 3 TIMES A DAY, AND ALREADY DO CHITAS, ADD SOMETHING ELSE. 9. GET A BRACHA FROM SOMEONE WHO CARES ABOUT YOU. 10. HAVE A FARBRENGEN, GIVE EVERYONE BROCHOS. 11. SEND THE RESUME TO A SHADCHAN THAT DOESN'T HAVE IT YET. 12. MAKE PHONE CALLS FOR SOMEONE ELSES CHILD. 13. WRITE DOWN 3 THINGS EVERY DAY THAT YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR UNTIL THE VORT. 14. CALL PEOPLE FROM THE GROUP AND ASK ...
By Rivkah Leah Bernath Chicago,IL Many years ago ,in my old neighborhood, a woman in her mid 40's would constantly bring up this topic. Her topic was , how much insurance she had on her husbands life. She would count on fingers when speaking about this, " I have a 30,000 on one policy, 10,000 on a second policy, there is a benefit from his work providing me with $ per etc ,month if he died. I knew them, they had a good marriage. I'm not implying she wanted him dead. But he did die suddenly that year. At another time, we had some friends that were putting on a room addition. They rented an apt during the construction. Every so often we would meet them at the house to see the progress. Sometime during the tour, the husband would say" after this is addition is done, I'm going to lose my job" and "I'm going to lose this house". We begged to stop verbalizing this. He didn't stop. He had a job earning in the 6 figures, he h...
Over 14 years ago there a group of women who gathered together to work on shidduchim for their children. We thought we would each speak about our children and trade resumes. That never happened. Someone took a sefer off the shelf, we started reading the Rebbes' letters on shidduchim. After each letter, there was a discussion.The letters were very soft spoken. None of them seemed to demand big actions but we found small actions were needed. We created an experimental "to do list". We started "doing"and we started to see engagements. We went though all the Chabad books in English. We got teachers to translate other seferim. We went though all the frum books. Each one added to our body of information. From there we started pooling our money and flying in Teachers, advisors. When our community was bringing in a speaker for the community, we would get a private audience with the Rabbi/Rebbitson. Each Teacher gave over excellent information but some of the teachers ...
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