About 14 years when we started the Shidduch Group we had no idea the value of this dynamic. We thought we would trade resumes. Shortly after we started, someone suggested we all say each others childrens' names by Friday night candle lighting. So we did. That felt good. It was more than feeling others were davening for my children. It was now being linked spiritually to each engagement. Each of us could be a deeper part of each simcha. We started reading Letters from the Rebbe out loud, followed by discussion of the letters. Combined brain power. Everyone was the student, everyone was the teacher. These discussions evolved into a "to do" list. This list was an empowerment list. Whenever I felt "nothing was happening with my childrens' shidduchim", I could choose something from this "to do list". I was never "powerless to help my children". We went on to read many books on shidduchim. We brought in local speakers and out of town speak...
LETS SAY YOUR NOT GETTING SUGGESTIONS RIGHT NOW AND YOU WANT TO CHANGE THAT CHOOSE SOMETHING ON THE LIST, WAIT A DAY OR TWO , CHOOSE ANOTHER. ANYTHING YOU DO AS A GROUP IS 10X MORE POWERFUL THEN DOING IT BY YOURSELF. 1. READ AND STUDY LETTERS FROM ETERNAL JOY. ALIGN YOURSELF WITH THE REBBES WISDOM. 2. GIVE CHARITY TO A NEEDY KALLAH OR TO A FUND THAT HELPS KALLAHS. 3. HELP A KALLAH WITH SOMETHING FOR HER CHASUNAH. 4. ADD TEHILLIM. 5. ADD SOMEONE ELSES CHILD KAPITAL TEHILLIM. 6. ADD A LEARNING SEDER 7. ADD A DAVENING. 8. IF YOU ALREADY DAVEN 3 TIMES A DAY, AND ALREADY DO CHITAS, ADD SOMETHING ELSE. 9. GET A BRACHA FROM SOMEONE WHO CARES ABOUT YOU. 10. HAVE A FARBRENGEN, GIVE EVERYONE BROCHOS. 11. SEND THE RESUME TO A SHADCHAN THAT DOESN'T HAVE IT YET. 12. MAKE PHONE CALLS FOR SOMEONE ELSES CHILD. 13. WRITE DOWN 3 THINGS EVERY DAY THAT YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR UNTIL THE VORT. 14. CALL PEOPLE FROM THE GROUP AND ASK ...
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