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LETS SAY YOUR NOT GETTING SUGGESTIONS RIGHT NOW AND YOU WANT TO CHANGE THAT CHOOSE SOMETHING ON THE LIST, WAIT A DAY OR TWO , CHOOSE ANOTHER. ANYTHING YOU DO AS A GROUP IS 10X MORE POWERFUL THEN DOING IT BY YOURSELF. 1. READ AND STUDY LETTERS FROM ETERNAL JOY. ALIGN YOURSELF WITH THE REBBES WISDOM. 2. GIVE CHARITY TO A NEEDY KALLAH OR TO A FUND THAT HELPS KALLAHS. 3. HELP A KALLAH WITH SOMETHING FOR HER CHASUNAH. 4. ADD TEHILLIM. 5. ADD SOMEONE ELSES CHILD KAPITAL TEHILLIM. 6. ADD A LEARNING SEDER 7. ADD A DAVENING. 8. IF YOU ALREADY DAVEN 3 TIMES A DAY, AND ALREADY DO CHITAS, ADD SOMETHING ELSE. 9. GET A BRACHA FROM SOMEONE WHO CARES ABOUT YOU. 10. HAVE A FARBRENGEN, GIVE EVERYONE BROCHOS. 11. SEND THE RESUME TO  A SHADCHAN THAT DOESN'T HAVE IT YET. 12. MAKE PHONE CALLS FOR SOMEONE ELSES CHILD. 13. WRITE DOWN 3 THINGS EVERY DAY THAT YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR UNTIL THE VORT. 14. CALL PEOPLE FROM THE GROUP AND ASK
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We were inundated with engagements

A TIME LINE IN  CHICAGO SHIDDUCH GROUP. Two years ago Chai Ellul, our group had a fabrengen with an inspirational speaker. One of the stories she told at the fabrengen was about a girl who had become frum a few years ago and was dating a bochur from a family that was frum for many generations.I don't remember how they met or if it was a traditional "shidduch set up". The bottom line of the story was that the two of them wanted to become engaged and the decision was up to the zeidie. While this girl was waiting for the decision, she went to her mashpia and had a two people fabrengen. They spoke, danced and sang niggunim  for 2 hours until the phone rang with the answer that the zeidie said "yes". Now , move ahead a few days and its Rosh Hashana, davening is over and group member are greeting each other.  Before we knew we had decided a Rosh Hashana Fabrengen was what we wanted. So, we each knocks on a few doors that rainy afternoon and a few people gath
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Letter to a single about fear of Divorce

 My  brother died suddenly at the age of 22. The first year of my married life I was in  denial of my brothers death. My husband wanted me to see a therapist. I didn't agree, a therapist couldn't bring  him back to life then nothing could be done.  My husband convinced  to go to see a grief therapist. I was right she couldn't make him alive again but she led me though the stages of grief.  I got on with my life . So, just like I didn't see that their could be help. I think many people are in a place where they could use help and don't know it. That is why I am writing to you. I'm working in shidduchim for 14 years. I see the same shidduchim blockages over and over again.  I listed many and asked our mutual friend, if any could be a possibility and it seemed like divorce could be something. She told me a close relatives of yours are divorced. These situations keeps the single "floating". They date, they get close to getting engaged, then call i
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Instructions from a Shidduch Mashpia

1. Make a Shidduchim Keli     First half of the keli...help a needy kallah with money or effort.(email for list of effort jobs)     Second half of the keli....take on something difficult (ruchnius) until you get to the chupa. 2. Open channels of bracha      a. Gratitute,,write down 3 things a day you are grateful for.      b. Forgiveness....make up with your relatives and friends.      c. Use the power of words to hasten the bracha....( for more info, email)      d. Use the power of thought, keep the positive thoughts, pick apart the negative thoughts      e. Ahavas Yisroel, help another with shidduchim      f. Get a brachos from friends and relatives. 3.Make a Brochos party(email for instructions) 4.Get a shidduch coach or a shidduch mashpia. Rivkah Leah Bernath   773.759.0908 Like us on facebook:   www.facebook.com/ chicagoshidduch follow us on twitter:   www.twitter.com/ chicagoshidduch
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Making a Shidduch

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1)The Gemara in Shabbat (31a), according to which one of the questions that one is asked after his time on this earth is up and he is facing the Heavenly judgment is “ עסקת בפריה ורביה ” — “did you engage in procreation?” TheMaharsha comments: The Gemara did not say [that one is asked] “did you fulfill [the mitzvah] of procreation,” but rather “did you engage [in the mitzvah of procreation],” meaning, “[did you take steps] to marry off orphans.” Maharsha, Chidushei Aggadot to Shabbat 31a,  לא אמר קיימת פריה ורביה אלא עסקת דהיינו להשיא יתום ויתומה . מהרש"א חידושי אגדות לשבת דף ל"א. בד"ה עסקת The Maharsha clearly understands that being engaged in the mitzvah of procreation means more than fulfilling that mitzvah by having children oneself; it includes doing what one can to facilitate the fulfillment of that mitzvah by others, by people who are less fortunate and who may never have the opportunity to get married and perform this mitzvah without the efforts of
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Gemara Megillah 15a Bracha?

DON'T UNDERESTIMATE THE BRACHA FROM ANOTHER JEW Gemara Megillah 15a: אמר ר' חנינא לעולם אל תהי ברכת הדיוט קלה בעיניך
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7 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married By Rabbi Dov Heller

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Home   »   Family   »   Marriage 7 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married An infographic on how to know you’re ready to tie the knot. by  Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.          
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